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Darren Hardy: Own Both Your Actions and Reactions in Life
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When I was 18 years old, I was invited to a seminar that I believe really flipped on the light switch of my potential. That day, those ideas changed my life forever.
There is one idea in particular I’d like to pass on to you. The seminar topic was responsibility and accountability, and we were discussing relationships in particular. The question was asked, In a relationship, what is the percentage of shared responsibility in making the relationship work? I was 18, so of course I had all the answers, and I blurted out, “50/50!” The look on the instructor’s face made it evident that was incorrect. Someone else said 51/49, and explained you have to be willing to do just a little bit more than the other person. Someone else said 80/20. Finally, the instructor turned to the easel and wrote 100/0 and explained, “You have to be willing to give 100 percent with zero expectation of receiving anything in return. Only when you are willing to take 100 percent responsibility for making the relationship work, will it work. Otherwise, the relationship left to chance will always be vulnerable to disaster.”
This concept is true for every area of your life…
You are always in 100 percent control and have 100 percent responsibility for everything that has occurred in your life as a result of your actions or inactions. And no matter what has happened to you, you still have 100 percent responsibility for your reactions.
When you truly embrace this concept, your life will never be the same. Then, no matter who is president, what happens in the economy, what anybody said, or did or didn’t do, you will still be 100 percent in control. Only then will you truly be liberated from mental and emotional victimhood.
Now is the time to grab life by the reins. Take 100 percent responsibility for where you are today; take 100 percent control of where you and your life go from this page forward…and let SUCCESS magazine help you start your journey to the life you were meant to live.
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[...] that inspired me to change the way I build relationships. I first read about the 100/0 principle in Darren Hardy’s book The Compound Effect. It’s about taking control over the creation of successful [...]
Concerning relationship, does it not take two to make it work. If i give 100% and the person is using it to his or her advantage, won’t that affect the person giving the 100% emotionally the person feeling used and unimportant?
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[...] truly effective and vested in the relationship, it needs to be 100/0. Darren Hardy in his blog, “Own Both Your Actions and Reactions in Life” emphasizes why this 100% responsibility makes [...]
Excellent point Darren. Accepting this fundamental principle as reality is the point at which we stop being children & put on the big-boy or the big-girl pants. It would be interesting to see the results of a study evaluating the acceptance of this principle vs. socioeconomic position.
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I just read a blog by Don Yaeger on how Patriots’ quarterback took direct responsibility for his failures by reviewing each incompletion with his running backs and wide receivers ON THE BUS after the game. He didn’t waste any time taking responsibility. No wonder he went from the 199th draft pick and 6th quarterback taken to his fifth Super Bowl! Here’s the link to the blog: http://www.donyaeger.com/chasing-greatness/latest
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Well said!
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[...] also read a short article from Success magazine yesterday that I thought was worth sharing, about owning your actions and reactions in life. While it is true that we can’t control (no matter how hard we plan and try!) the things that [...]
Thank you, Darren. I also believe you must be 100% percent committed to what you are supposed to do in life. Like climbing a mountain and your crew leaves you half way up, if you are 100% committed, you keep climbing until you reach the top. Less than 100%, you find an excuse to quit.
Darren, thank you, for all that you do to inspire those you come in contact with.
Dave M
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Viktor E. Frankel (Man’s Search for Meaning) called it the space in between. The freedom to control our reactions to whatever happens to us in the world.
Great stuff Darren
Brian
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